The power within.

I have been thinking and at a glance nobody have actually know what I can do to make a life up-side down. With my intelligence and know-how, I can make one's life suffer. Off late, since I am holding an important post in my department, many have gave me the remarks, without fail when ever I complaint about something, " Kalau Zafifa yang lembut ni pun tak boleh tolerate, yang lain apa lagi". I am quite surprise with the remarks though, and thanks-but-no-thanks for making me a kind of girly type which I hate to be labelled with. I really hate those who are girly type especially sulking tak tentu hala, or with manja-manja tone of voice. Ohh pleaaase!

When I was engaged with my hubby, it seems everyone has been coming to me and tell me how to treat my fiancee well. Back rooted from a close knitted family, and being the only grandson for almost 5 odd years, he was well known with his tanthrums. Being a kampong boy, his socialization with the tools and nature is quite amazing. He has always the way to do things (up till now, I must admit), and he speaks his mind, most of the time. He told me once, I am telling only the truth to you, regardless how bad and hurt it will be - so be it, I like this style. I think it is a sexy move, that a man has the guts to tell the truth to his girl. I believe in toleration to make this relationship happen and sustain. After all, I am building my family with him. It shouldn't be always about himself right?  Reminising the old days which I definitely would nodded on the 'advice' given by my MIL, datuk, nenek, makcik, pakcik, adik... I think I can do more on that. Now I felt if I take their advice, I am slavering myself to my hubby, not making a healthy relationship, at the end, making a good slave to him. Our relation shouldn't be based on dreadful fear, it should be on respect and love.

I might sound feminist in this sense, but I think the community should be more open in any relationship. Let them be in sailing their own boat, even in the angry seas. The rest, be the paramedic waiting a call of help. Be our buffer but never in between of us.

P/s - Thanks Mr Hubby for always being my punching bag when ever I am down, and holding me whenever I am at the top of the world! Love ya...